After my first wife died of cancer, I attended a Church Singles Conference, for those above age 40, where I met a wonderful woman and we got married. that My joy may be in you. Pray you, keep seat. Post was not sent - check your email addresses! Or maybe we just accept it better? I pray this in the name of Jesus. To cry, good joy: good joy, my lord and lady! Otherwise we just go to Church, someone reads 1 Cor 13 or Moroni 7 and we go home. i like to think you wouldn’t have to worry about offending people. As the Father has loved me, so have I loved you. On my least generous days, I claim others are coveting what is mine. Cannot load blog information at this time. Many of us end up in places we never expected, having fully anticipated that our tickets promised an entirely different destination. I pray that you'll meet as few obstacles as possible in this life, to enjoy it in full … MACBETH I do forget. Thank You for being my Daddy. Sometimes it’s so hard not to do. I think it makes us a better people to have joy in what others joy in. (Kristine included.). Come, love and health to all; Then I'll sit down. My lord Bassanio and my gentle lady, I wish you all the joy that you can wish; 1560 For I am sure you can wish none from me: And when your honours mean to solemnize The bargain of your faith, I do beseech you, Even at … That is why we need Christ’s atonement. Nothing but praise for this post. 66. Different? I’d kind of prefer to think not, because from here, that looks like a really dumb plan, and I want to think God’s smarter than that, and intended a better shape for me :), “We covenant, simply, to respond sympathetically, that is, to feel with our sisters and brothers, love them as ourselves. - Salt Lake Tribune. That is some comfort, although it would be nice to have someone in the here and now. Help me to come to You at the beginning of my fears and anxieties instead of waiting until I can’t stand them anymore. In Jesus' name, amen.” Did this message speak to your heart? I spend a lot of time bearing other people’s joy. Give me some wine; fill full. Bearing their joy is a good way to put it. Thanks, Kristine. Remain in My love. Moreover, we simply can’t, by force of will or intellect, anticipate all the ways in which our talks, our lessons, our casual chatter in the halls, might cut a beloved bystander to the quick. West-siders aren't thrilled. General principals are great, but there is also a great hunger by many for application (and just how do I do that?). On my most generous days, I can see the roots of my dismissing others happiness as naive and stupid is really my coveting it. Lon, me too. Is important to me, because my natural inclination is to give up and withdraw. Part 6: The Kimball/Benson/Hinckley Revolution. Thank you. I pray you if you love me, bear my joy / A little while, or let me weep your tears; / I, too, have seen the quavering Fate destroy / Your destiny's bright spinning--the dull Instead of how to keep the sabbath day holy…how to build family and friend relationships Thank you. So you'll always be able to enjoy your life without a hindrance in any move, so you'll be free and clear to travel as you want to do and feel joy all around you. I like to think that I’ve put away such childish things, and then Bob gets a bonus and I don’t, or Jennifer gets the new car that I can’t afford, or Kim gets praised and I don’t, or whatever, and I quickly find that all those five-year-old attitudes are still there. I, too, have seen the quavering Fate destroy Enrich your vocabulary with the English Definition dictionary I believe that He died for my sin and that you raised Him to life. PRAY NOW "Dear God, I know I’m a sinner, and I ask for your forgiveness. And Christ’s. Amen. /end hackneyed metaphor :). When I remember that the ragged, chewed thread of my fate is part of the same thick, golden cord as your beautifully spinning thread–when I know and feel that the fact of my sisters’ and brothers’ happy eternal marriages is a joy that belongs to me as it does to them simply because it increases the amount of light and goodness in the world, when I learn that it is my duty and privilege to rejoice with them, even as it is theirs to mourn with me–then, and only then, it seems to me, can I start to receive the gift of charity that makes it possible for all of us to speak freely and love fully in our congregations. [CDATA[ Father, I love You. Joy Harjo was appointed the new United States poet laureate in 2019. These are my takeaway gems: So, if you are bearing little, don’t give up. I’m grateful that when I pray to You, You answer me. The best thing I’ve read in a long while. We covenant, simply, to respond sympathetically, that is, to feel with our sisters and brothers, to love them as ourselves. So "If you keep my commandments" and "if you bear fruit" mean the same thing. 9 As the Father has loved Me, so have I loved you. I ususally try to quote the sentence or thought that jumps out the most to me – but that is impossible in this post. This is something I have been thinking about a lot lately, and you articulated it beautifully. “I learn that it is my duty and privilege to rejoice with them” is so hard sometimes–it’s also hard to allow others the opportunity to rejoice with us. I must confess, in my heart I intend to love others as you do, but my intentions often get washed away with "busy-ness" or timidity. Of course the catch is that we must seek to feel with them on their terms, on their wavelengths, and not our own. How to teach ideals without making people who, for whatever reason, aren’t able to achieve them feel bad is a regular theme of discussion in the Church, probably because we don’t have any good answers. HAMLET For God's love, let me hear. Please help me to notice Your answer to my prayers, and I thank You for hearing me and giving me my request. If people stopped focusing so much on specifics, rather than general principles… Guide my life and help me to do your will. Nothing good gets away. But in this case, the teacher was a dear and wise friend, so as I bravely ran away, I was thinking about what I would say to her if she asked me how to teach this particular lesson without wounding me freshly, or re-opening old wounds. Follow @genius "http":"https";t.getElementById(r)||(n=t.createElement(e),n.id=r,n.src=i+"://platform.twitter.com/widgets.js",s.parentNode.insertBefore(n,s))}(document,"script","twitter-wjs"); And the sparkle in your eyes Every time we speak, It sends shivers down my spine And makes my body weak. The joy thought of is that which Christ Himself possessed in the consciousness of His love towards the Father, and of the Father's love towards Him. Just so, Becca–I have healthy kids and a job I love and a gazillion other things that other people painfully lack, and for which I’m forgetting to be grateful when I’m busy thinking about the husband I don’t have. Meeting not neatly, chewing at the thread,— ”. Another liberating idea I take from that poem is the reminder that both our blessings and our trials are so often “unwarranted”–it seems to me that a great deal of the hurt we inflict on each other comes from looking for explanations, for secret sins or particular righteousness that justify our own happiness or others’ misery. I get into trouble when I start comparing my ragged part to someone else’s golden part. And if we ask what is it in this context that Jesus means by "commandments," the answer again is love. The Seventy. .We all love each other, no matter what. ... And bid me hold my peace. The idea of bearing one another’s joy is one that had never occurred to me. I pray that the trend continues in my life! And since I doubt I’ll find a mate in this life, I’m holding out for a really super one in the next. I’ve got a disabled son (autism). Enter your email address to follow BCC and receive new posts by email. I certainly don’t have any good answers. Thank you. How staunch as wire, and how unwarranted By some demographic fluke, I am the only divorced person in my ward (and one of only two unmarried women). 9 As the Father hath loved me, so have I loved you: continue ye in my love. I drink to the joy of all of you at the table, and to our dear friend Banquo, whom we miss. (11) These things have I spoken unto you, that my joy might remain in you.--The better reading is, . We fail at charity constantly, on our best days, because we cannot see each other clearly–we cannot yet “know even as also [we are] known.” The hopelessness of the situation does not excuse us from doing our best to see and understand each other (and we ought to think long and hard about the unkindness we can easily avoid), but it does free us to look for help from sources beyond our own fretful thoughts and inadequate imaginations. This marvel to you. I wish he were here! I bought a ticket to France!” It’s easy to just find the nearest cemetery and grieve behind the stones instead of fully engaging with what we find around us–and even enjoying the postcards from Paris. Thanks for sharing this insight. I do not feel any discomfort in a lesson about eternal marriage, because I believe I eventually will have one, although I sometimes do when the lesson is about children, since I never had any when I was married. A few weeks ago, the Relief Society lesson in our ward was about Eternal Marriage. i pray you tell me definition in English dictionary, i pray you tell me meaning, synonyms, see also 'prayer',pry',pay',prepay'. Fare by my side, that journey in the sun; Being all members of one body cannot possibly provide relief if every part of the body must constantly suffer the affliction of all the other parts. And no man receiveth … Yes, but still a big part in shaping the person you become. Verse 12: "This is my commandment, that you love one another as I have loved you." It had never occurred to me either. For your intent In going back to school in Wittenberg, It is most retrograde to our desire. ... Life isn't always happiness and joy - there are times when you need a prayer for healing and change.. Your destiny’s bright spinning—the dull shears Nor can you well be less aware how fine, And are strengthened by our association.. A good read after a guy in my ward told me this week that in an ideal world we wouldn’t allow divorced people to remarry…, Well, of course, chuck. I belong to a study group in my ward of primarily single sisters, some of us divorced, some widowed. Let us go forth together to the spring: Endures the golden fortune that is mine. //, Sorry, we have to make sure you're a human before we can show you this page. Thank you. You made me who I am today. :) Love yer guts, K. I’m still trying to figure out what this post has to do with the Red Sox. She is the author of several books of poetry, including An American Sunrise, which is forthcoming from W. W. Norton in 2019, and Conflict Resolution for Holy Beings (W. W. Norton, 2015). John 15:8-11 “By this my Father is glorified, that you bear much fruit and so prove to be my disciples. Maybe. Lewis describes as the capacity to “rejoice in [our] own [gifts] as frankly and gratefully as Agape (Ancient Greek ἀγάπη, agapē) is a Greco-Christian term referring to unconditional love, "the highest form of love, charity" and "the love of God for man and of man for God". Welcome to Rwanda!” “What? “Hi. To have that attribute is one of the greatest that the Lord admires and loves.” Thank you for the insight. However, over time, Christ has changed me, and I have come to bear more fruit. I would venture to say your divorce (and the other ladies’ singleness) are just as part of the plan as your friends marriages. Alas, Deity is constrained to speak to us  “according to [our] language, unto [our] understanding,” which means, in my case, that He has to resort to channeling second-rank sentimental poets: I pray you if you love me, bear my joy Anyway, for me it’s often easier to mourn with those that mourn than it is to rejoice with those that rejoice. . I will remember your profound words and try to implement them in my future lessons/life. Because they are our selves. No Greater Love. Sorry, your blog cannot share posts by email. So much to think about in this. A little while, or let me weep your tears; I love you, Mom. I pray for you so you'll feel Gods love and strength. Matt, you just shook my whole world. Great post. May God continue to bless you with his love and care in abundance. This is beautiful. At least that’s what I’d start off with if I were teaching the lesson…, Hmmm. There is a terrible need for application, and when we do that, there is always an issue. !” instead of throwing all the dishes on the floor :). I think one of the things about the ideals in the church is that the most fundamental doctrine of the church is that no one lives up to the ideals. My patriarchal blessing says: “I bless you to truly have the ability to feel joy at the success of others, even though it is a success you would desire. It seems to me that one of the hardest things in life is to cope with the perception that somebody else is getting a better deal — more praise, a larger slice of pie, a bigger raise, whatever. And made me feel a little better about the backpedaling I felt compelled to do during discussion of this lesson in my own RS. A solemn consideration, when I enter a great city by night, that every one of those darkly clustered houses encloses its own secret; that every room in every one of them encloses its own secret; that every beating heart in the hundreds of thousands of breasts there, is, in some of its imaginings, a secret to the heart nearest it! The art of the sermon is not lost. “we can stop trying for pale, polite, bloodless niceness and risk the deep connection that is the beginning of real charity”. But it made me feel alone and alienated. in [our] neighbour’s [gifts] or in a sunrise, an elephant, or a waterfall.” Our spiritual and emotional blessings have to be shared as freely as our material possessions if we are ever to arrive in Zion. I believe all of us have thick, golden parts and ragged, chewed parts. Gratiano. It’s hard to find a good man, especially as you get older. That’s what’s cool about yarn–all the fibers are different thicknesses, strengths, broken off in different places, but when they’re all spun together, they make a single strong length. As it happened, I’d been having a particularly hard time in the weeks before that lesson, feeling sorry for my sad, single self, and mourning deeply for the idyll I’d planned, the sweet, peaceful childhood I had intended for my children, now irretrievably blighted. ... if you love me, shut my mouth! I believe Jesus Christ is Your Son. To have that attribute is one of the greatest that the Lord admires and loves.”. Amazing and beautiful insights. Enduring the discomfort of sitting together in a lesson on an awkward topic, saying what we really believe, and listening to what others say with the deepest charity we can muster, is a chance to practice, in a tiny way, being “of one heart and one mind.”. Thank you, Kristine. If you keep my commandments, you will abide in my love, just as I have kept my Father’s commandments and abide in his love. “Beautiful” is all that comes to mind. In the 15th chapter of John's gospel our Lord uses the beautiful symbol of the vine and its branches. Love me no more, but love my love of thee. I needed to read this tonight. ” I can see the roots of my dismissing others happiness as naive and stupid is really my coveting it. Beautifully written essay on a difficult subject! If the fact of someone’s pain requires silence about our own joy, the bearing of one another’s burdens becomes grim duty indeed–those burdens, it seems to me, can be borne better as they are lightened by shared happiness. Born in Tulsa, Oklahoma, in 1951, Harjo is a member of the Mvskoke/Creek Nation. Every time you say I love you, My heartbeat goes insane. Instead of wifehood..being a good person Thank you so much. I pray you if you love me, bear my joy A little while, or let me weep your tears; I, too, have seen the quavering Fate destroy Your destiny's bright spinning—the dull shears Meeting not neatly, chewing at the thread,— Nor can you well be less aware how fine, How staunch as wire, and how unwarranted Endures the golden fortune that is mine. You want to free me from ALL my fears. I was later introduced to a lady in another state by a family who had moved into our ward. ~Algernon Charles Swinburne Don't worry about losing. Thank you. every human creature is constituted to be that profound secret and mystery to every other. Instead of motherhood..being a good example to your community Else must I turn me from the blossoming year If God wanted the ideal to be consistently so, he would make it that way. I think this is a really important and edifying perspective. That’s why Kristine’s, “If we begin to understand that our most careful efforts at not giving any offense will fail, we can stop trying for pale, polite, bloodless niceness and risk the deep connection that is the beginning of real charity.”. We’d stone them :). The greatest Mormon blog in the universe. 10 If ye keep my commandments, ye shall abide in my love; even as I have kept my Father's commandments, and abide in his love. Thanks for sharing such a profound thought. 10 If you keep My commandments, you will remain in My love, just as I have kept My Father’s commandments and remain in His love. A few months ago I had received a wonderfully good gift to my life, but I feared to share it because I knew that others were struggling and I held back. I think it is critical. You have been my strength from birth. I love your Dylan-esque re-writing of the poem in the title. 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